When it’s OK to stay mum about your surgeries.
There is nothing more frustrating than a woman with obvious enhancements insisting on being 100 percent natural. Especially when that person claims to have sprouted double D breasts overnight or to have simply outgrown a large and bulbous nose. But sometimes there are situations where it’s better not say anything at all, instead of pulling a Heidi Montag and giving your surgeries front page of Us Weekly magazine kind of attention.
As a woman who has gone under the knife at a young age, I have always made it a personal policy of mine to be honest when anyone asks if I have had work done. Simply because I’m not ashamed to admit it. That being said, I have definitely come across situations where I have chosen not to be forthcoming with the information because I felt like it wasn’t something that needed to be shared.
Growing up our mothers told us honesty is always the best policy, but when it comes to talking about something as personal as surgically altering our bodies there has to be occasional exceptions to the rule. I reached out to the The Today show’s Thirty Second Therapist Dr. Gilda Carle.
To People Who Aren’t Your Real Friends
“One time where it’s appropriate to lie is if it’s a person who is not your friend, who wants to know just for the sake of wanting to know, for the sake of gossip, or to say nasty things about you. You don’t have to tell that person anything. I think it’s really nervey if a person says to you, “Have you had plastic surgery?” “Have you had a facelift?” What would it do for them to know anything of that nature, how would knowing the truth about their surgeries affect their life or make it better?,” she says.
To A Negative Nancy
“You can lie to people who are always talking negatively about who’s had work done. If you hear someone say, ‘Oh she’s had work done’ in a judgy or nasty way, or they are always talking poorly about women who have had work done, that’s somebody that you don’t need to tell anything about your business.”
In the Workplace
“You don’t have to tell anybody in the workplace what you have done to make yourself more presentable. Especially these days when the work place is a hot bed for people being fired for all kinds of reasons, and people are getting plastic surgery in order to look more presentable to be more hirable. So you don’t have to tell anybody in the work place about your secret weapon that made yourself look more beautiful in order to be hired for the job.”
On a First Date
“Telling a guy that you’re interested in that you’ve just started seeing that you’ve had plastic surgery is like telling him that you have a sexually transmitted disease. You don’t have to tell him about the work you’ve had done unless he plans on marrying you and making you the mother of his child and you used to have a very big nose and you’re afraid the child is going to inherit it. But you don’t have to tell him anything on a first date, or on a second or third.”
Unsupportive family members
“If you’re set on getting surgery and you know that a family member is against it, you don’t need to tell them anything because they aren’t going to be supportive about it. Here’s the thing you need to ask yourself: is this so important to your relationship that you have to share it even though it could cause a significant strain? Only tell people where this will directly affect your relationship. You have to ask yourself is knowing the truth going to make this person’s life better, and the answer is usually no.”
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